Hallo, Welt!<\/p>\n
Auch dieses Thema ist geklaut von Gewaltfrei im Norden. W\u00e4re doch schade, wenn es dort unter tausenden von Terminpostings untergeht…<\/p>\n
So long! <\/p>\n
Ysabelle<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n – Memnoon Energy ist ein libanesisches Wort und heisst \u201eSegen\u201c. Die Story dazu: Marshall traf in einem IIT eine Frau, die im Rollstuhl war und staendig Unterstuetzung benoetigte. Als er einmal mit ihr spazieren ging, fragte er sie, ob es nicht fuer ihren Partner schwer sei, ihr immer zu helfen und ob es ihr nicht schwer falle, ihn immer wieder um Hilfe zu bitten. Sie sagte, nein, ihr Partner tippe sich immer mit der Hand auf das Herz und sage \u201eMemnoon\u201c, wenn sie ihn um etwas bitte, und damit wolle er sagen, dass er es als Segen fuer sich selbst empfinde, das Erbetene fuer sie tun und damit zu ihrem Wohlbefinden beitragen zu koennen. Marshall bezeichnet dies als die schoenste Art \u201eyou\u2019re welcome\u201c (also \u201ebitte\u201c auf ein \u201edanke\u201c hin) zu sagen.<\/p>\n Diese Beschreibung, die mein Herz ber\u00fchrt, fand ich unter<\/p>\n http:\/\/www.anne-m-dietrich.net\/9730.html?*session*id*key*=*session*id*val*<\/p>\n <\/em><\/p>\n Weiter unten dann der Hinweis: <\/p>\n http:\/\/www.puresync.com\/article090807.htm<\/p>\n Once we identify what our needs are we can make a request. There are two important aspects of making requests. The first aspect is to distinguish whether your request is in the positive or the negative. The second aspect is differentiating requests form demands. If we want to cast blame onto the other party, we will have difficulty making requests.<\/p>\n To make a request in the positive means you are asking for something to be done verses asking for something not to be done. When a request is made in the negative it does not give clear direction regarding the actions which would enrich each person\u2019s life. Often when a request is stated in the negative there is an aim at controlling a situation. Rosenberg states, \u201cThe objective of NVC is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way; it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy that will eventually fulfill everyone\u2019s needs.\u201d When making requests it is important to keep in mind that there may be other options that will be more fulfilling to all parties involved.<\/p>\n Stating a request in the positive helps it to be heard as a request verses a demand. Although you do not know if a request is truly a request until it receives a no. The rejection of a request is the test to see if it really is a demand. When a demand is heard, the person hearing it has only two choices, to submit or to rebel. When a person acts from a place of submission or rebelling, they are acting from a place of having no authority. It is important, if you perceive a demand to find the needs behind it and then find other solutions to meet these needs. By doing this, you have expanded a perceived demand into a perceived request, and then you are free to choose what feels best to you.<\/p>\n Requesting may be the last stated step in the NVC model, but that does not mean that after a request is stated that the process is over. We request strategies to meet our needs and it is important to be open to our needs being met in a multitude of ways. Rosenberg suggests that we interpret no\u2019s to be memnoons. A memnoon is a request that blesses the one who is asked. It is helpful to realize that as we empathize with the feelings behind the \u201cno\u201d the person who is saying the \u201cno\u201d will be developing a stronger sense of trust for us and will be more likely to agree with another request or even offer one that you did not even think of. When a \u201cno\u201d is received as a memnoon or as an opportunity to serve, our intent is clear of demands and focussed on fulfilling needs. <\/em><\/p>\n Ich finde es sehr bereichernd zu entdecken, dass es auch andere als kaufm\u00e4nnische Aspekte gibt, um Menschen zu unterst\u00fctzen: Ich gebe dir und du gibst mir… So long! <\/p>\n Ysabelle<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hallo, Welt! Auch dieses Thema ist geklaut von Gewaltfrei im Norden. W\u00e4re doch schade, wenn es dort unter tausenden von Terminpostings untergeht… So long! Ysabelle – Memnoon Energy ist ein libanesisches Wort und heisst \u201eSegen\u201c. 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\nRequests<\/p>\n
\nIch mache etwas f\u00fcr Dich, um anerkannt und geliebt zu werden…
\nKeine erf\u00fcllenden Gr\u00fcnde! Vielmehr begebe ich mich in die Marionetten-F\u00e4den, werde abh\u00e4ngig von der Anerkennung anderer.
\nSchon cool, wenn man die F\u00e4den durchtrennen kann und Memnoon oder Mizwa \u00fcbt… <\/p>\n